It’s Wedding Season

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It’s wedding season in the city. Many are getting married this month and in next few months. For the rich it is an event to boast about their wealth, to showoff and to spent extravagantly, which gives the poor just another reason to feel even more depressed.

I know many poor and lower middle classpeople who take huge amounts of loan just for the wedding of their beloved daughter and work even more hard to pay it off in their old age.

The lights, Huge amount of dowry, delicious dishes and a classy venue may just be a matter of expressing happiness for some but for others it has become a matter of prestige.

I wonder why can’t we just keep our weddings simple ?

13 Comments so far

  1. Mona (unregistered) on November 10th, 2006 @ 5:14 pm

    This system of dowry sucks. A guy should be responsible enough to buy stuff for himself and his wife :@.


  2. Arsalaan Haleem (unregistered) on November 10th, 2006 @ 6:04 pm

    @ Jamash: You answered your own question.
    …cause it is a matter of prestige for the parents.

    And its is another way for the rich to flaunt their wealth.

    **smiling** and if I not mistaken, our cuptaan will be also tying the knot this wedding season..:-)) **smiling**


  3. Rick Shaw (unregistered) on November 10th, 2006 @ 9:20 pm

    This whole dowry crap must be eliminated from our society soon. I think the guys (doolha) who is getting married should stop acting like chickens and take a stand (act like a man) and say no to dowry. In fact the guys parents should be the one giving dowry if anything.


  4. IllusionFS (unregistered) on November 10th, 2006 @ 9:52 pm

    If one can afford it, I think they should celebrate it extravagantly. I mean whats wrong with that. Just because there are poor people, you cannot stop living your own life which you have worked so hard for.

    The poor should be realistic you know. If I cannot afford a big wedding, I should realize that and act accordingly. And I know people who have done just that. Why feel depressed if rich are celebrating it in a big way?

    Unrealistic, I would say.


  5. khan Latef kHAN cPI (unregistered) on November 11th, 2006 @ 12:29 am

    Hyderabad based urdu newspaper siasat editor mr amir ali khan and mr mazhar and mr alamdar were involved in a sex racket today as exposed by MIM floor leader in the state assembly in which a young girl was sold to alleged sex racket after being brought in a trap by offering her a scholarship and then taking her to a farmhouse and raping her which are seirous offenses and even forcing her parents not to file a police complaint and threatnig them with dire consequences.Even the National Law Trust has sent a letter dated on 14-09-2006 signed by its Chairman Mr Khalid Nishu to all the Newspaper editors to take up the story as it damages the reputation of the media and the victim Mrs Mariam Fatima had even met the President of India seeking justice and the State Home Minister has appointed a team led by deputy Commissoner of police Mr Madhu Sudan Reddy IPS to investigate the case as promised by the Minister in the Assembly .The Majlis Ittehadul Muslimeen on Tuesday took the Congress government to task for its alleged failure to control kidnappings and trafficking of young girls in the State, particularly Hyderabad.


  6. Mariam (unregistered) on November 11th, 2006 @ 2:26 am

    Yeah, I heard about this culture. Recently theme weddings are too becoming popular. Few weeks ago Rufi builders daughter got married and it was a talk of the town as they used Mughal theme. Why I was never invited at such weddings?

    If one can afford it, I think they should celebrate it extravagantly.

    Agree

    which you have worked so hard for.

    Couldn’t be true for bribe takers which include half of ultra rich men and women.


  7. Aussi_Paki (unregistered) on November 11th, 2006 @ 3:06 am

    Completely agree with Jamash here! Why not just havea simple wedding at home, just the nikah, eat food with your family and thats it. I don’t get it either!!


  8. wasiq (unregistered) on November 11th, 2006 @ 3:17 am

    **I wonder why can’t we just keep our weddings simple ?**

    Ans:To make sure you don’t say, ” twice a day everyday….!lol.-p

    (bhai jee yeah dus rupia walley sawal/pershan kabh tak challein gay…..next round ka poochoo naa…)


  9. ash (unregistered) on November 11th, 2006 @ 11:13 am

    Well blame this one on human nature. No society has a “simple” wedding tradition. After all this was meant to be the only party you ever had before you died.

    Again i’d like to say when people spend others earn thats good for society not bad.

    Poor people have a million problems here, real problems that sadly we cant begin to solve without socio-political will. But craving anothers wedding ceremony? that should be pretty low on anyones wish list. Crave the good marriage not the big wedding.

    I may be a minority but noone in my generation in my family has taken or given dowry. Now mehr on the other hand ….


  10. mansoor (unregistered) on November 11th, 2006 @ 2:01 pm

    i agree with no dowry rule and hope to implement that when im about to get married. I’ve already talked with my parents on this, and all we’ll want from the girls parents are their blessings, and whatever they would want to give to “HER” for her future security.

    No dowry, no gifts for the extended families… nothing! im against all that!

    May god give me the strength to enfore my decision


  11. Hope (unregistered) on November 11th, 2006 @ 2:17 pm

    I personally believe that weddings shouldn’t be that simple because a wedding is a special day, and it should be celebrated as such. It’s not just another day. But I also believe that spending obnoxious amounts of money is just crazy. There’s no point in throwing money away like that. There’s definitely better uses that u can put ur wealth to. And I don’t only mean charity.


  12. icedmocha (unregistered) on November 11th, 2006 @ 7:57 pm

    @ mansoor- yaar ther shud be more doolhaz out ther like ya!! get with the program ppl..b like mansoor lol.


  13. Wellwisher (unregistered) on November 12th, 2006 @ 2:42 pm

    I believe that you cannot create the entertainment for your visitors by throwing out money. I believe that a simple wedding with the aim of maximum entertaining with the reasonable amount of money is good for all

    I have attended marriage ceremonies of people who spend lacs on the dowry, food without caring much about the food menu… seekh kabab and nan are very reasonable and tasty, but few ppl even think about those foods and order the same biryani qorma on each wedding function.

    I have also attended very reasonable but much more enjoyable marriages.. this was done by a well off family who hired a music system, dim lightings and ordered simple seekh kabab and nan food. I cant describe the fun we had when everybody was asked to join the dance. The venue as it may surprise you wasn’t a top class wedding hall.. it was a large cone tent erected on a vacant plot that belonged to one of their friends.. The weather was chilling 5 degrees celsius.



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