Karachi ki shaadiyan-

It is way past Cinderella’s golden hour.The bride’s sharara no longer sparkles and the groom’s getting impatient.Ladies are sick of exchanging juicy morsels of gossip and children are wailing in the background.There are some husbands wondering when will the food be served.It’s two in the morning.Some Wespa owners are worried and older guests are definately annoyed.Atlast the food is served.More likely,opened for people to push their way through.There is mad chaos.People depart by two-thirty.Funnily it is not even a weekend.
We have all lived with these shaadis.We have also lived with disregard for punctuality,but the question is,till when?I really do not know when and where did we begin to slack.Fashionably late is a term that is disgusting(in desi context)-Weddings are specifically mentioned because they continue till wee hours of the morning.Other events too are devoid of respect for time.Should this stop or not.Nobody should just shutup because “this is Pakistan and that’s how it is.”Or should they?

29 Comments so far

  1. imran (unregistered) on December 28th, 2006 @ 10:41 pm

    Nicely said

  2. Mona (unregistered) on December 28th, 2006 @ 10:43 pm

    Went to a shaadi after many many years last weekend. The food was served at 12am, which is pretty late (for myself at least as I ain’t used to of going to gatherings which last that late) – however was told that even 12am is earlier than the current norm in Karachi. It should definitely end, as people (guests) other than the families of the bride and groom may have things planned on the next day =/

  3. KhiTorPit (unregistered) on December 28th, 2006 @ 10:44 pm

    Guys, I just came back from Khi, that why I was not in touch with KMB for so long.

    I have heard that “Suhaag raat jaisi raat zindagi main aik baar hi aati hai”, so I was wondering like how much time the bride and groom will have on this special night if they enter into the room at morning, this is disgusting.

  4. d0ct0r (unregistered) on December 28th, 2006 @ 10:46 pm

    here in karachi i haven’t seen any shadis scheduled in afternoon.. whereas in punjab and nwfp they’re quite common…

  5. Sufi (unregistered) on December 28th, 2006 @ 11:05 pm

    Khitropit, suhaag raat is now partly suhaag raat + suhaag din :D as the newly wed mian biwi wake up very late.

  6. KhiTorPit (unregistered) on December 28th, 2006 @ 11:24 pm

    I dont know who the hell is the person responsible to approve the post at KMB, I didnt understand what is his criteria behind that.
    If he can approve Unaiza’s and Cy’s stupid posts … then why not ours ?

    Sorry Unaiza its not just me who thinks like that others will also agree with me that most of your post doesn’t make any sense.
    You dont write any comments on other’s post, and just curious to see what others thinks about your posts.

  7. Sufi (unregistered) on December 28th, 2006 @ 11:28 pm

    Khitorpit, hosla karo bhai :) .. Unaiza don’t get paid to do this. KMB is not run by your taxes either :D .. If u want, you can volunteer to write as well. its open to all. Simple criteria about writing here is that it should be about Karachi. Besides this post is written by Henna, Unaiza bechari kahan say aa gayee?

  8. Adnan (unregistered) on December 29th, 2006 @ 12:07 am

    this topic being “Karachi” ki shaadiyan is by all means related to khi soo whts wrong in it KhiTorPit

  9. Arsalaan Haleem (unregistered) on December 29th, 2006 @ 12:12 am

    Yeh, Khitorpit, even I don’t understand, where does Unaiza comes into this picture….this is written by the newcomer, Henna P. Brother, I think that you carry around a some kind of a grudge against poor Unaiza.

    @ Henna, with all due respect, I think that talking about Time Management among us, the Pakistanis, more so, the Karachiites, is a exercise in futility as we going from bad to worse in the custom of punctuality.

    My five rupees worth.

  10. KhiTorPit (unregistered) on December 29th, 2006 @ 12:18 am

    Sufi sahab!! The way you are talking seems like you are the person responsible to approve the posts on KMB. Why are you getting mad at me ?

    Its obvious that if I am posting anything on KMB it would be about Khi and its ppl only.
    The other thing is, I know this post is written by Henna, and I am not talking anything about this post. I have been reading many of Unaiza’s post b4.

  11. KhiTorPit (unregistered) on December 29th, 2006 @ 12:23 am

    Guys you misunderstood me, there is nothing wrong with this post, infact I enjoyed it, thats why I have added a comment, I was getting mad as my post was not approved so I thought how come my post is not approved and how come Unaiza’s (previous stupid posts not this one) gets approved. So I am not talking at all about this post. Got it ???

  12. umar (unregistered) on December 29th, 2006 @ 12:40 am

    khitorpit, how can your posts be approved or not approved when you are not even an author on this blog? Did you mean your comments don’t show up? If that’s the case then it’s probably because your comment is held for moderation, which is a done by a filter that processes every comment. It might be released after the author of the post reviews it.

  13. KhiTorPit (unregistered) on December 29th, 2006 @ 12:48 am

    Umar, I was thinking to share an important issue which is very hot now-a-days. Thats why I was trying to create a new post and dont want to spoil this post.

    But anyway, you guys might be wondering what would be that issue ? So … the issue is why our education system is being modified to have 9th and 10th exam papers alltogether ?? Anyone knows whats the logic behind that ? As I think it would be really tough for the students to appear in all 12 papers together. What can we do to stop this non-sense ?

  14. Razi (unregistered) on December 29th, 2006 @ 1:22 am

    As the saying goes, “time is money”..sadly the people of Pakistan in general and the people of Karachi in particular have no regard for neither the above saying nor the value of time.

    It is mind boggling as to how the same people who are in a mindless rush during the day (rash driving etc.) citing reasons for lack of time, do a total turnabout during the night. Can we blame an exhausting day for this malady or should you put the blame on the ‘idiot box'(TV)?

  15. Henna (unregistered) on December 29th, 2006 @ 1:30 am

    Arsalaan-That’s exactly what i’m saying WHEN will we learn?
    Doctor-If afternoon sounds too early atleast they should end before eleven,don’t you think?
    Razi-I don’t think it’s t.v. all that much.But it’s true that bad sleeping patterns affect a much larger segment.Here’s to hoping that we will bring a change:)

  16. zahra (unregistered) on December 29th, 2006 @ 1:50 am

    Henna: Very well-written post, important issue brought to light, nice take on it. We’ve got you at KMB!! ThankGod….

  17. Imran Khan (unregistered) on December 29th, 2006 @ 2:20 am

    I think we are ALL responsible for this … things just dont happen in society for no reason at all – they happen because they are accepted or promoted by others.
    For the record, in my own shaadi, I, being the groom was in the hall by 7p – the bride arrived at 7:30p. Back then only drinks were served, but all in all the rukhsati was done by 9p … to this day, friends and relatives remark fondly on this punctual wedding ….
    I’m not self promoting — just pointing out the basic fact, that no Messiah from the Great Heavens will descend to remedy this problem of punctuality in our weddings – we just all have to make a stand for ourselves ….
    Hence, this post is purely pointless and JUST MEANINGLESS RHETORIC .. ! JUST DO IT .. if you are ready to, that is ….


  18. Darthvader (unregistered) on December 29th, 2006 @ 3:10 am

    F punctuality man ..there is a perversed pleasure in staying up late or even later . and everything is late anyways ..why should shadi’s be any different ??? i have been hearing this punctuality speech ever since i was born …no one i know has ever died because the Barat arrived late ..cmon nowwwwwwwwwwwww…this is Pakistan babez and that’s how it is .

    yes , cheers to Late or even Later.

    Vader, the Dark Sith

  19. Sufi (unregistered) on December 29th, 2006 @ 3:24 am

    dv, I am with you.. for a free lavish superb dinner, I can stay awake all night :D and then there are these pretty girls who are dressed to kill.. Neend to aati hi nahi. lol .. aur waisay bhi, it gets cooler (temperature) in late hrs of the night. Cool temperature + delicious dinner + kashmiri chaye + ladkyon ka sajna dhajna = priceless.

    Afternoon weddings in Karachi’s heat, dulhan bhaag jaye gi shaadi chorr kay.

    Khitorpit, I am not mad on you. Why would I be mad? You cannot make a post on this forum unless you are an approved author here. You can however suggest a story to the authors and if they like it they will write about it. So .. easy bros.

  20. aSaR (unregistered) on December 29th, 2006 @ 7:43 am

    its not only KHI that weddings are late happening event… my inlaws live in KHI and they have attended atleast 5 6 weddings in this past year. and NOT ONCE i would remember them saying the dinner served at ok time. You guys are right, its just a “trend” that us desis carry. However, just to share, same happens here in USA. Many of the weddings I have attended, the couple doesn’t show up until around midnight or even later! Like someone said above, if you want that change, you gotta do it yourself.. My hubby and I were ready since 9pm. We were roaming around in the limo and waiting for all the peepz to show up..finally WE got the green light at 1015 to come in.. and boy was I ready or was I ready! It was all fun after that.. and I ALSO still get comments on how we showed up so early.. haha.. i say in my mind.. if i showed up early, none of you guests would have been here! haha.. :)
    Neways, as someone said, we have to change it ourselves..but the guests are just as equal part of it too.
    I wonder why its just us desis.. why is it that goras and chaptas all stay so much on time or run 15 or 1/2 hour behind the posted time, and that’s like oh my gawd, we are late!
    hhmmm.. why us desis??
    Nice topic Henna, we need to consider punctuality

  21. wasiq (unregistered) on December 29th, 2006 @ 8:13 am


    welcome to KMB Henna P…….

  22. Anathema (unregistered) on December 29th, 2006 @ 8:18 am

    and here i was commentinig on how the last three weeks of weddings i have attended evevrything has ended by eleven and im home at elevent thirty. everything started on time in four different weddings: 9 or max ten and done by 11.

  23. Henna (unregistered) on December 29th, 2006 @ 11:51 am

    Zahra and Wasiq-:)
    Imran Khan-I plan to start my wedding on time-when it’s done.But my family is relatively punctual about timings.
    Asar-I know-it’s about a collective psyche I suppose?
    Anathema-There are more weddings that refuse to end by eleven.I sure wish people become like them:)

  24. mansoor (unregistered) on December 29th, 2006 @ 7:05 pm

    good one henna.

    i recently went to a valima ceremony, where even the brides family hadnt arrived till past 12:30!! the good thing was, the dinner was started at 11:30 as mentioned in the card. all in all, a very unusual kind of a ceremony it was.

    khitorpit: ur suggestion has been taken into consideration. By the way, as far as giving all 12 papers is concerned, i did my matric from federal board and gave 10 papers in one go, it really isnt that bad :P

  25. HerbWoman (unregistered) on December 29th, 2006 @ 7:12 pm

    Okay , ppl in karachi have to have issues with even the most issueless stuff – refering to the long list of unrelated comments on this post. Someone please do write a post on karachi walas and their ability to spitspat on just about everything.

  26. KA (unregistered) on December 29th, 2006 @ 7:30 pm

    If we are always SO sure that the event would start 2 hours after the actual time written on the invitation then simply show up 2 hours late. Why do we continue to make the same mistake…learn!

  27. llama (unregistered) on December 31st, 2006 @ 11:20 am

    Henna, best way to ensure that things change for the better is for each of us to make sure that when it’s our time, we are punctual and responsible. My own wedding started at 9:15 and was over by 11 mostly due to the fact that my husband and i went on with getting married regardless of who was there or who wasnt :)

    The trend is changing i think—slowly but surely. soon ppl like DV and Sufi will be in the minority…:)

  28. Jamal Shamsi (unregistered) on January 5th, 2007 @ 6:33 pm

    One anna, worth

    – Time is commodity we Pakistanis’ tends NEVER to respect and value, knowing that it never stops for anyone

    – Punctuality is other word for an INSULT

    Million Dollar Worth – Dulha & Dulhan are both handicap to Others no matter how much they wish to be alone on their own !

    :D Cheers!

  29. Anathema (unregistered) on January 5th, 2007 @ 9:32 pm

    of all the weddings that i have attended, i have been fortunate that like some people here, the couple decided it was their marriage and people can come and go but the ceremony began on time

    that is what matters. when my sister got married, our card clearly read “please observe punctuality” and even though my relatives were not present (hum jamaat parrhe baghair kaise aate?), the ceremonies went on. for thirty odd people the other four hundred invitees did not need to suffer. parents have to go home to be awke for kids in the mornings. kids have colleges and unis in the morning. now that i work i hate the idea of being at a wedding post eleven. i need to wake up in time for work!

    people dont follow a practical sense. its norms.

    my clsoe friend had the best solution. a time band: 8-11. running buffet. no one had to wait for dinner. no one had to worry about being late or early. and the running buffet enabled timeliness.

    but to each his own. i just wish people would remmember the trauma they underwent at their time of being guests when playing hosts. my parents remembered how they had to wait and they put their foot down. and thats why we had a punctual event.

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