horror stories : engagements

Why is it that engagements are not those happy stories anymore? Which would lead to this big traditional wedding where everyone is happy and the couple sets off to lead a happy fulfilling life?

Being in the age where everyone around me is either getting engaged/married or on the lookout to get engaged… i see a lot of horror stories around of engagements being broken. I thought i’d share some of them here, and i invite you all to give any stories youve heard about or witnessed.

There is one friend who got engaged 3 years ago, thought her fiance was a nice guy, then found the bad side of him, and consequently, the engagement was broken.. Then another one, who’s mother-in-law saw this dream in which her new daughter-in-law was fighting with her son, and cancelled the wedding after 6 months of engagement and one week before the wedding! Then another one, who was really in love with her fiance, engaged for about 2 years. During the engagement period, her fiance turned into a freak, became extremely jealous, and would berate her for even picking up the phone after three rings.. consequently, the engagement got broken too… Another friend, was engaged for SEVEN years to her cousin no-less, which for her were the worst years of her life. She just couldnt see eye to eye with her prospective mother in law, n it was so bad that for 7 years, the mother in law actually subjugated her whole family… happy to say, shes not engaged anymore either. Now ive got two friends who are looking forward to having their engagements break off, since one of them hates her fiance (who is a looser waise), while the second is in love with someone else.

These are, but few of the stories i’ve heard with various people at fault. In some cases, the guy freaked, in some the mother in law was a monster, while in some the girl/boy in question couldnt go on with it…

Now its your turn.. what horror stories do you have about engagements (not) leading on to marriages leading on to divorces.

20 Comments so far

  1. Poo Poo Head (unregistered) on June 24th, 2006 @ 11:32 am

    Pretty funny post :-). I would just say that you are jinx. I dont know even a single person who has called off his/her engagement. And I guess its not a bad thing after all. If you dont like a person then its better to run away.


  2. Wahidi (unregistered) on June 24th, 2006 @ 11:55 am

    I agree….we pakistani men tend to be a little weird than usual wen it comes to wedding…..
    like feelings of jealousy, hatred are embedded in us….like…ofcourse there are others who are all cool abt it ….but then u do find similar jealousers and freakshows in the short-term crushes or affairs our generation is involved in today…….
    you can’t really expect the guy or girl ure marrying to, to be the most perfect replica of ure dreams…..
    i’ve heard of similar cases myself….and ive seen “mishaps” on both sides……
    Though i think its a good thing that u get to know ure fiance better by delaying ure marriage a bit…….and know him/her better…instead of spending the rest of ure life watching ureself go white and bald!:p….


  3. Zain (unregistered) on June 24th, 2006 @ 12:39 pm

    Mansoor, kya yaar yeh bhi koi post hai??


  4. Kashif (unregistered) on June 24th, 2006 @ 2:53 pm

    Hmmm… filler


  5. naeem (unregistered) on June 24th, 2006 @ 3:39 pm

    I suggest look at the better side of things…ever wondered how many engagements do not get ‘called off’?


  6. yo yo (unregistered) on June 24th, 2006 @ 3:50 pm

    I think Naeem is right. The ratio has not increased just the number of people getting who are getting engaged. But usually thats why Nikah is recommended over engagement. Cause no party can’t really backout easily from nikah. They are forced to do their homework before-hand.


  7. sooban (unregistered) on June 24th, 2006 @ 4:07 pm

    i d rather say its better to have a broken engagement than a broken marriage.
    you should do your homework in any case and if it really doesnt seem to work out then its better to call it off than suffer.


  8. mansoor (unregistered) on June 24th, 2006 @ 4:41 pm

    poo poo head: consider yourself lucky

    wahidi: LoL @ going white and bald. haha

    zain: its that time of life jee.. :D

    naeem: engagements are not supposed to get called off actually, its only when they are that it makes the news…

    yo yo: wouldnt nikkah without homework be like going white and bald?? plus, breaking a nikkah carries a much badder stigma

    sooban: i so agree with you!


  9. verysmart (unregistered) on June 24th, 2006 @ 5:49 pm

    wow…
    hey i thought its just my friends who are going through this phase, now i know its kinda getting very usuall back home.

    In the past 6 months, i have seen 3 of my friends going through the same situations, 2 of these engagements were a result of long standing love relationships, and one was purely family facilitated.

    I was thinking that these guys have lost thier minds and cannot maintain a decent relationship, my God i never realized that its a common thing now.

    Whts happening to us???


  10. Jamash (unregistered) on June 24th, 2006 @ 7:11 pm

    I agree with SOOBAN
    It’s better to have a broken engagement then a broken marriage. Thank God we get time to analyze our partners’ compatibility and credibility before marriage. And about the (Boys) who think that “Yaar is larki ke mangni tootee thee too larki main koi foult hoo ga ” . These boys are too narrow minded to get married with, you are lucky that you don’t have to deal with them anymore.


  11. mansoor (unregistered) on June 24th, 2006 @ 7:20 pm

    jamash: true dat! if someone believes that.. then good luck to them! not only will they ruin their lives, but sadly the life of their partners as well :(


  12. Adnan Siddiqi (unregistered) on June 24th, 2006 @ 11:37 pm


    May i dare to ask what is the link of this post with KARACHI itself or how these things happen only in karachi only? Don’t you think your own blog could be much appropiate place for this post rather Karachi metroblog?

    you guys should try to make difference between blogging and metroblogging.


  13. mansoor (unregistered) on June 25th, 2006 @ 12:54 am

    dear adnan.. all these incidents *did* take place right here, and for me.. this has become a part of my living life here…

    with that respect, i thought it was appropriate when first posting it, however, since then i’ve realized that maybe this might not be.

    Im still trying to figure out what goes here and what doesnt.. so please bear with me. :)


  14. Adnan Siddiqi (unregistered) on June 25th, 2006 @ 2:33 am

    No problem Mansoor.I think you didnt get my point.Many of social problems are almost same in every part of world like corruption,rape etc.You experienced it in Karachi because you live in karachi.If you were part of some other city then it was not going to change the fact.What most of metroblog readers like to know that how such social issues are being handled by people of particular region like you mentioned about engagment stuff but you didnt comeup with any solution to resolve the issue(Atleast i didnt find any solution from your post).It would be nice that you point out some problem as well as point out the people who realize the problem and trying to solve it.If you think that its not being solved by others then you should try to comeup with some solution,in this way you will open a door for readers to ponder about the issue.Foe me Xille’s post was a bit irrelevent too but he did point out the loophole in a system.

    I(we) dont expect you guys perfect but when you choose a public platform then awam(readers here) expect you to be different than us.


  15. Adnan Siddiqi (unregistered) on June 25th, 2006 @ 11:54 am

    why my reply didnt appear?


  16. IllusionFS (unregistered) on June 25th, 2006 @ 12:18 pm

    I totally agree with Sooban & Jamash.

    And adnan bhai, please stop complaining.


  17. Moiz Kazmi (unregistered) on June 25th, 2006 @ 2:10 pm

    engagements are meant to be broken i guess…its just a custom in which boy n girl get the surity tht thy’ll be married sometime later…if its ended up thrs no harm in it…infact its a safe way…just imagine if all ur frnds got nikah-fied and thn the mother in law’s and fiance’s start seeing dreams and show up thr bad side ???
    so its better to get engaged and end it if u r not compatible !!


  18. mansoor (unregistered) on June 25th, 2006 @ 2:47 pm

    moiz: hear hear!


  19. Adnan (unregistered) on June 25th, 2006 @ 10:15 pm

    yaar Illusion its not a complain yaar calm down bro.Mansoor understood what i was talking about.No hard feelings on both sides =)


  20. Kumail (unregistered) on June 26th, 2006 @ 8:28 am

    jeez, why this post ever made it through on the Metblog is beyong my comprehenshon. At the same time – broken engagements are cool man its like you date someone for a bit and realize its not working out and say alright lets call it off.
    Its sad that the whole thing has been stigmatised by our culture, I see nothing wrong or peculiar about broken engagements.
    Having said that, I would once again like to say that lets have more posts pertaining to outstanding issues or ground breaking achievements of the city instead of trivial matters like broken engagements.

    Cheers



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