Shoe Crazy Pakistani Women – Part II

Almost a year back I wrote about the Shoe Crazy Pakistani Women, where I shared my experience at shoe shopping around town just before EID.

A year has passed and the same scenes have been replaying over ‘n over again. Yesterday I had the misfortune to witness the poor men folk standing outside shoe shops twirling their fingers literally as if to plead to be relieved of this traumatic experience. They stood around quietly while the women-folk ransacked the shoe shops around Zamazam in search of the ‘perfect shoe’.

Its the ever-so-patient men who stand around patiently listening to comments like Kuch Pasand Nahein Aya interspersed with Kiya ho giya hai is daffa – no good shoes. You and I know this question should NOT be addressed as it may take a turn for the worse and are expected to humbly follow the leader to the next shop.

Women, have mercy on us *snicker*

44 Comments so far

  1. Anathema (unregistered) on October 22nd, 2006 @ 2:36 am

    true that.

    i can never tolerate men around me while shopping. in fact i lose any sense of purchasing if i have any guy with me while shopping.

    and agreed. its sad how men have to wait and patiently let their ladies buy shoes and do their shopping.

    but. bigger question: who’s asking you to tag along and have to wait? stay at office and do what you do best: work and earn while we work and shop. we manage both very well you see without you =)?

    and really. i dont see while u must tag along and then whine about it =D


  2. Anathema (unregistered) on October 22nd, 2006 @ 2:37 am

    true that.

    i can never tolerate men around me while shopping. in fact i lose any sense of purchasing if i have any guy with me while shopping.

    and agreed. its sad how men have to wait and patiently let their ladies buy shoes and do their shopping.

    but. bigger question: who’s asking you to tag along and have to wait? stay at office and work and earn while we work and shop. we manage both very well without you, you see =)?

    and really. i dont see while u must tag along and then complain about it =D


  3. Anathema (unregistered) on October 22nd, 2006 @ 2:39 am

    true. your patience put to test. agreed about women going crazy.

    but who is asking you to tag along? and then complpain about it?

    we work and shop and manage both very well without men. i cannot at all shop if any male is accompanying me.

    you can simply work. and sit pretty at home after a tough day with boss.

    we dont mind shopping alone =).


  4. Darthvader (unregistered) on October 22nd, 2006 @ 3:21 am

    Right on Anathema ,thats a great come back. i wonder if TM has a sheepish smile on his face right about now.
    LOLLLLLLLLLLLLL


  5. Anathema (unregistered) on October 22nd, 2006 @ 3:55 am

    seriously. taking men shopping is extra luggage [:s]


  6. Aussie_Paki (unregistered) on October 22nd, 2006 @ 6:43 am

    Lol so true! When my dad goes with us (once in years), he’s like be quick =/..But that applies to me too…Im an identical twin and my twin sis loves shopping and I hate it :P Still a girl:P


  7. Adnan Siddiqi (unregistered) on October 22nd, 2006 @ 6:44 am


    taking men shopping is extra luggage

    LOL!

    @TM: You are a Husband. nuff said *grin*.


  8. mansoor (unregistered) on October 22nd, 2006 @ 8:10 am

    TM.. i sympathize!

    i’ve had the misfortune of going shoe shopping.. and it was HELL!!

    Still, kinda lucky the lady in question finally liked one pair after an hour of searching and i thankfully made it home :D


  9. Jamal Shamsi (unregistered) on October 22nd, 2006 @ 10:55 am

    Am the only one for her to drive and go around for her. Though she is able to drive, but you know, parking around, and put a car in KERB is real test for ‘LADIES’ so, am MANDATORY, I love my both cars, and some laws I choose to Imply for shopping spree which are complied willfullllllly

    Do it happily or do it with frown, if you have NO choice, wear a sssmile, zip up the lips., and manage your STRESS Trust me They have no mercy when it is about shopping !


  10. Kashif (unregistered) on October 22nd, 2006 @ 3:41 pm

    We usually shop for eid before ramadan, thus getting away from the maddening crowd. However, there are still last minute items on the list. Btw, I would live to sit and relax at home while the misus can do the shopping of her heart’s content, but alas she needs a driver and baby keeper.


  11. Manish (unregistered) on October 22nd, 2006 @ 5:23 pm

    @ Jamal S…….:)….I can sooooo vouch for your patience during..ALL THOSE shoe shopping times….gud bhai…

    And shoe shopping requires a lot of time…..so if u absolutely have to go to the shopping areas…just be mentally prepared for a wait of atleast…say 2 hours….bring along a gud book…or better yet..start writing one on “How to spend time(interestingly) while we wait”. ..:)…


  12. Teeth Maestro (unregistered) on October 22nd, 2006 @ 8:49 pm

    Well to set the fact straight (more in defense of my man-hood LOL) this time I was NOT suckered in to tag along shoe shopping but was only a witness to the ‘ransacking’ by the women and saw the poor gentlemen standing on the side.

    But please ladies have some consideration for the men-folk when you truly mesmerize yourself in the shopping fiasco


  13. IllusionFS (unregistered) on October 22nd, 2006 @ 9:00 pm

    for some reason, i always thought anathema was a man. lol


  14. Anathema (unregistered) on October 22nd, 2006 @ 9:49 pm

    @ IllusionFS: you’re the second person on this blog to have been under that impression.

    may i ask what gave u the idea?

    and. honestly i dont know whether that’s a compliment or demeaning comment. would really lovve to hear your reply to this. i dont know why am assumed to be a male. doesnt feel very good honestly.

    @ JS: teach your wife to drive and give her the motivation to drive without coming through as a joke and insult on the roads? give her the confidence and yourself the peace? i am sure she really would not mind some time to herself =)

    @ Kashif: i am sure you can do that too. have youo asked youor wife if she wouldnt mind goiong out shopping alone? i know all my married friends would love to go shopping ono their own. and the husbands love them for not dragging them along.

    @ TM: well well. you tag along and whine. sounds like you sport it. you really do bring the “Extra Baggage” term to life.

    and generally speaking: were all of u males dragged out before u got married? did you whine then?

    and i fail to understand why you cannot ask your ladies to go shoppig alone. unless you dont want to stay at home nd watch the kids. so ud rather be driver than babysitter.

    i know im beinng judgemental. but hey. so r the whiney men here.


  15. Adnan (unregistered) on October 22nd, 2006 @ 10:23 pm


    IllusionFS: you’re the second person on this blog to have been under that impression.

    make it 3rd now :>


  16. Adnan Siddiqi (unregistered) on October 22nd, 2006 @ 10:26 pm

    Anathema is the only lady here defending the entire Pakistani Women Community. This is something which should be appreciated, specially when she has some valid points :)


  17. Abdul Sami (unregistered) on October 22nd, 2006 @ 11:43 pm

    a bit off topic. has some one checked shoe planet @ Tariq Road opp. EBH?


  18. Anathema (unregistered) on October 23rd, 2006 @ 12:09 am

    here’s something more off-topic. a live 1.5 yard or metre (ive been told by the guards at park towers) fell from the ebh store above the shop around two or three o clock in the morning. it was eventually killed. turns out it arrived in the latest stock of cartons in the shipment received by EBH.


  19. Anathema (unregistered) on October 23rd, 2006 @ 12:12 am

    typographical error: 1.5 yard live snake* fell from the overhead stock room.


  20. Captain's Log (unregistered) on October 23rd, 2006 @ 12:13 am

    Why men are so mean ? Can’t you spare just few hours for your wife/gf/sister considering that you spend 8-10 hours daily at work , few hours mean nothing. If my family expects me to go with them and wait for few hours once/twice in a year then I would be glad to do that.

    Come on guys, don’t be so mean. Do I sound like a gal :-) ??

    Anathema, let me tell you why you sound like a guy. You love cars , you are very out going as you have reviews for every place and then irony :-) is you know the exact prices for that. We just do not expect gals to quote prices I guess. You could hear that Pizza hut buffer costs xxx from lot of guys but generally those restaurants prices do not matter to gals.

    Any how it sounds you are a kid of rich dad and I like your energy so keep spending your dad’s fortune :-) and bless us with women’s reviews.

    And kid do not mind if people think of you a guy, I guess it’s a compliment in Pakistani society.


  21. d0ct0r (unregistered) on October 23rd, 2006 @ 12:18 am

    few masjids in karachi claim that they’ve spotted moon today (sunday) and have announced that tommorow(Monday) iz eid any one heard of that? can any one confirm? while mufti Munib-ur-rehman is rejecting the claims and says the hilal committee will sit tommorow in peshawar and will decide…


  22. Anathema (unregistered) on October 23rd, 2006 @ 1:12 am

    insult over insult over insult

    Rich Daddy’s girl? Sir ji. my father is a hardworking man. Hard-working enough that he did not have time for us in the evenings.

    However, my parents decided we were not to fall prey to the male chauvisnistic attitude (as is much prominent here). So. they brought us up in a manner to be aware.

    I know prices so I can follow a budget. I know places cuz I like treating myself and people i care about: parents. and if they see pricecs before I do ahem =D. that will not be pretty. Cars: when you have a family with no men but a father and he wants to make sure his girls do not fall prey to the male chauvinism, since ther childhood he will teach them things so that one day they can stand tall and equal to men. I guess my father did really understand the despicable male chauvinistic attitude at much display here. so he made sure I knew about cars enough.

    simple words: our parents did not want us dependent on male chauvinists. they probably knew one day the male chauvinists would tag along with us shopping and then whine about it and mock us in our face.

    the same way everyone here seems to be doing.

    Kerb parking: sounds like women do not know how to reverse park? which world are all of u from really? believe it or not 1999-2002 sevevn cars used to racce to iba every morning for one parking slot. of the seven, five were driven by girls.

    really. which world are you males from? either im from a different world. u just insulted my parents by saying “rich daddy’s girl”. or ure from a world i cannot relate to.

    and the way i see things: I certainly belong to a much better world.


  23. Anathema (unregistered) on October 23rd, 2006 @ 1:13 am

    insult over insult over insult

    Rich Daddy’s girl? Sir ji. my father is a hardworking man. Hard-working enough that he did not have time for us in the evenings.

    However, my parents decided we were not to fall prey to the male chauvisnistic attitude (as is much prominent here). So. they brought us up in a manner to be aware.

    I know prices so I can follow a budget. I know places cuz I like treating myself and people i care about: parents. and if they see pricecs before I do ahem =D. that will not be pretty. Cars: when you have a family with no men but a father and he wants to make sure his girls do not fall prey to the male chauvinism, since ther childhood he will teach them things so that one day they can stand tall and equal to men. I guess my father did really understand the despicable male chauvinistic attitude at much display here. so he made sure I knew about cars enough.

    simple words: our parents did not want us dependent on male chauvinists. they probably knew one day the male chauvinists would tag along with us shopping and then complain about it and mock us in our face.

    the same way everyone here seems to be doing.

    Kerb parking: sounds like women do not know how to reverse park? which world are all of u from really? believe it or not 1999-2002 sevevn cars used to racce to iba every morning for one parking slot. of the seven, five were driven by girls.

    really. which world are you males from? either im from a different world. u just insulted my parents by saying “rich daddy’s girl”. or ure from a world i cannot relate to.

    and the way i see things: I certainly belong to a much better world.


  24. IllusionFS (unregistered) on October 23rd, 2006 @ 1:13 am

    hahahaha@

    me says:
    eid ki tayyari mukammal?
    her says:
    not yet yaar
    me says:
    q yar
    her says:
    can’t find sandles for my self


  25. Anathema (unregistered) on October 23rd, 2006 @ 1:15 am

    insult over insult over insult

    Rich Daddy’s girl? Sir ji. my father is a hardworking man. Hard-working enough that he had to work in the evenings and forgo time to spend with us..

    However, my parents decided we were not to fall prey to the male chauvisnistic attitude (as is much prominent here). So. they brought us up in a manner to be aware.

    I know prices so I can follow a budget. I know places cuz I like treating myself and people i care about: parents. and if they see pricecs before I do ahem =D. that will not be pretty. Cars: when you have a family with no men but a father and he wants to make sure his girls do not fall prey to the male chauvinism, since their childhood he will teach them things so that one day they can stand tall and equal to men. I guess my father did really understand the despicable male chauvinistic attitude at much display here. so he made sure I knew about cars enough.

    simple words: our parents did not want us dependent on male chauvinists. they probably knew one day the male chauvinists would tag along with us shopping and then complain about it and mock us in our face.

    the same way everyone here seems to be doing.

    really. which world are you males from? either im from a different world. u just insulted my parents by saying “rich daddy’s girl”. or ure from a world i cannot relate to.

    and the way i see things: I certainly belong to a much better world.


  26. IllusionFS (unregistered) on October 23rd, 2006 @ 1:18 am

    Anathema: I dont know really. Its just a stupid assumption that I made. Probably the way ‘anathema’ sounds. I dont know. I just always assumed u are a man. Sorry for any inconvenience.

    Cheers.


  27. Jamal Shamsi (unregistered) on October 23rd, 2006 @ 1:46 am

    @Anathema

    Like all others, am quiet convinced that you are a Mrs. Nawazish Ali of this Blog.

    You missed my 1st line, she is very much capable of driving in thin traffic hours, park and get out, else the shopping season when everyone is out on the road., and try to grab the parking slot with much aggression.

    Alhamdo Lillah She very much wise and smart enough to make her way around. The only thing WE both cannot stand is the attitude of people on the road. So we devised certain Ethics for both of us to be comfortable when she request me to drive and my assistance is needed.


  28. Captain's Log (unregistered) on October 23rd, 2006 @ 1:48 am

    Come on Anathema, Rich daddy’s gal is not an insult(there was no sarcasm involved). Do you imply to say that rich men are nor hard working. Believe me that no one could be rich w/o hard working. It was just a simple comment that your dad is a rich man and you are lucky enough to spend his fortune. If you find that offensive then I am sorry. I do not sorry if I think I am not wrong, (just ask IllusionFS :-) but here I am even after knowing that I am not wrong.

    Have you ever heard , if your’s dad is not rich , it’s your luck but if your’s father-in-law is not rich then it’s your stupidity. Cheer up and do not spoil the happy days of youth for some stupid comments of some depressed joker.


  29. Manish (unregistered) on October 23rd, 2006 @ 1:57 am

    @anathema I can so relate to u…glad to know dere are more dads who think lyk mine…. all the dads..n dads to be…(gals’ dads to be specific)….there’s a lesson to be learnt here…..if u can get it…:)….otherwise HAPPY WAITING…….


  30. Chumpoo Nath Ghosley (unregistered) on October 23rd, 2006 @ 6:41 am

    Abay O! Poo Dhakkan, sharam nahi ati nick change karkay dosroun ke maa behano ko chertay huway. Kia teray ghar baap bhai nahin hain?


  31. UZi (unregistered) on October 23rd, 2006 @ 6:23 pm

    Yayyyy, Anathema! And salutes to your dad! And salutes to my dad for doing the same! : )

    As for all the whiners above:: The perfect shoes matter. I repeat :: Shoes HAVE to be perfect — and bags too, but that’s another story altogether.

    If you feel so strongly against women spending time shopping, let them go alone. I always shop alone, and Anathema’s right: shopping alone IS a lot easier than dragging “baggage” along. :P

    Honestly, I don’t see what the issue is, here — you lot seem to have a penchant for whining online, for no reason whatsoever.


  32. UZi (unregistered) on October 23rd, 2006 @ 6:24 pm

    Why has my comment been held for approval? It didn’t contain any URLs at all! :S


  33. UZi (unregistered) on October 23rd, 2006 @ 6:25 pm

    Yayyyy, Anathema! And salutes to your dad! And salutes to my dad for doing the same! : )

    As for all the whiners above:: The perfect shoes matter. I repeat :: Shoes HAVE to be perfect — and bags too, but that’s another story altogether.

    If you feel so strongly against women spending time shopping, let them go alone. I always shop alone, and Anathema’s right: shopping alone IS a lot easier than dragging “baggage” along. :P

    Honestly, I don’t see what the issue is, here — you lot seem to have a penchant for whining online, for no reason whatsoever.


  34. Teeth Maestro (unregistered) on October 23rd, 2006 @ 7:19 pm

    Uzi – just took your comment off the spam filter, was strangley being held up because of the word ‘shoes’ hilarious ;) – the comment has been posted


  35. UZi (unregistered) on October 23rd, 2006 @ 8:38 pm

    lol! the “irony!” :P


  36. Jamal Shamsi (unregistered) on October 23rd, 2006 @ 10:39 pm

    my write-up was taken in Moderation Folder and then it has vanished ……………! Woooooooooosh !


  37. Dee (unregistered) on October 24th, 2006 @ 2:19 am

    Oh come on guys.We made sehris and iftaars for all of you and also make sure to do our ibbadats in the month of ramazan and same goes to the rest of year.Atleast you men can do is to tolerate our shopping trips.LOL.
    Now its hard for some of you to understand that shopping(even window shopping) has therapeutic effects.Dont believe me :), next time when lady/ladies of the house come home with tons of shopping bags and huge bill before going laal peela just take a look they seem so surreal and peaceful.LOL.
    So stop complaining about why we take so much time to shopping coz we dont care we just like to
    shop.
    Dee


  38. Adnan Siddiqi (unregistered) on October 24th, 2006 @ 1:10 pm

    @Dee: *nods*. My attempt to give tribute to all such ladies.


  39. wasiq (unregistered) on October 25th, 2006 @ 3:16 am

    Hey girls (rich or extra rich…) you got your s****,suits,purse,bangles,jewelry,…every thing for the eid….now tomorrow is an important match…so please no fuss no funda…ok.


  40. Mahrukh (unregistered) on October 27th, 2006 @ 3:01 pm

    @anathema: i never had any doubt about you being a girl.. if my memory is serving me right, you once mentioned that you are at state life bldg # 1 (i m saying coz you once mentioned samosas from enterprise and the dhabbas nearby)… i have also worked for A.F.F. so i know that place quite some.. just out of curiosity, where do you work exactly? i mean i was wondering if i really know you or have seen you.. may be … may be .. :) or may be i m completely wrong!! who knows?? i hope i m not offensive or intruding your privacy!


  41. Anathema (unregistered) on October 27th, 2006 @ 7:26 pm

    haye enterprise. craved it for an entire ramzan. i work at ubl. been here three years. im sure we’vev seen each other.


  42. Asma (unregistered) on October 28th, 2006 @ 1:42 am

    Lolz … well shoe selection is really a big headache .. and finding the right shoe for right dress for rite occassion …. ooooooooooooooph :)

    And only pakistani women are not crazy for shoes … all women are ^_^

    In fact next time do focus on men too … coz I’ve seen my father how he inspects intoa shoe … I select one and thenleave it on his inspection … quality … stuff … gluing … ^_^

    Coolio Post


  43. saima Nasir (unregistered) on October 30th, 2006 @ 7:42 am

    Anathema,

    I read your reply and explanation of how proud you are of your feminity and as much as I respect and enjoyed reading your views on educating and bringing up capable girls or rather ladies, I don’t understand why do women in general have to throw isults at the chauvinistic males to drive a point home…..(it is degrading enough to be a chauvinist whether male or female) that women shud have freedom of coice in every aspect of life…….even if it is just FOOTWEAR….
    As for fathers or males who don’t let their daughters or women folk drive they are just being protective because of the crimes and mishaps….but honestly it is a pleasure and a luxury to be driven around in karachi …..so no harm if such a luxury exists and hats off to ladies who are official family drivers (ask me amd my friends…who all have finally hired a male driver…no matter how iritating).

    The secret to success is to understand your own potential and strengths and not the male weaknesses…..as a lot of men luv to do about women….and those are not the real winners, everyone knows that…..so enjoy life and “Belated Eid Greetings To All!”


  44. saima Nasir (unregistered) on October 30th, 2006 @ 7:47 am

    Teeth Maestro,

    Good Post…..but it is called POETIC JUSTICE…..women have their ways of getting back at men and “coice of footwear” on eid is just one of those…wait until you discover others!!!!!



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