Wedding Dinners – An Idea

Since the wedding season is on and most of us have gone through the pain of endlessly waiting for dinner to be served, I have been flirting with an idea that can save us from the frustration that we have to go through every time we attend a wedding.

The idea is simple. Start the dinner at 9 no matter how many guests have arrived. Serve the dinner until midmight. Those who come late can just start the dinner rightaway, meet with people, congratulate the bride and groom, and be on their way. That way no one will have to wait for the dinner, and everyone will be done by midnight. This will specially benefit those who come early and end up waiting too long for the dinner. Also, dinner should not be associated with arrival of bride and groom. It should be served on time regardless. Not everyone wants to meet the bride and the groom. Some people just come to mark their presence. Some just meet the parents of the newly weds. Making them wait for dinner is unfair.

Now the only question is, who is bold enough to adapt this?

17 Comments so far

  1. zee (unregistered) on July 19th, 2007 @ 1:53 am

    You won’t believe but this is exactly what I also came up with and well, sooner found out that this is something that even my brothers also thought of. A lot of people are thinking in those lines, it’s just a matter of time before someone start doing it and other people follow it.

    I might pull this off in my wedding :)

  2. Balma (unregistered) on July 19th, 2007 @ 2:27 am

    Subhanallah! While young people all over the world are working towards minimizing global warming thinking of new businesses, working towards inventing new technologies….what do our kids do: discussion on wedding ceremonies!
    Mei’n phhir yehee kahoo’n gaa, cousin marriages should be discouraged in Pakistan…logo’n kee soch (thinking) kaa maiyaar ghaTyaa ho gayaa hae!

  3. Arifa (unregistered) on July 19th, 2007 @ 2:31 am

    @UMAR: Seems like you have suffered a lot? :) It’s a great idea and I have already presented it to my family for a cousin’s wedidng.

  4. ShahidnUSA (unregistered) on July 19th, 2007 @ 3:03 am

    Fun fun fun! Weddings are fun

  5. Balma (unregistered) on July 19th, 2007 @ 3:42 am

    BadBad Bad! Population explosion in Pakistan is bad.

  6. KhiTorPitt (unregistered) on July 19th, 2007 @ 4:14 am

    @Umar, Your idea may not work out for the host, as most of the guest will leave as soon as they will have dinner and then it would be difficult for the host to see their guest. Then the event would look more like a langar-e-aam.

    If somebody is that bold enough to take a step then it should work in a way that no food should be served after a certain time, prior to that they should request their guest to attend the ceremony at the timings specified in the invitation card.

    Question: Their was a restriction in the marriage hall to wind up the ceremony at some particular time, I was wondering if that restriction is still their ?
    Is their any restrictions on the number of dishes served in the marriage ceremony ?

    @Balma, do you work with an NGO for population control in Pak. ???

  7. atif abdul rahman (unregistered) on July 19th, 2007 @ 6:40 am

    Even though my folks crossed borders to get married, I am engaged to my cousin by mutual choice.
    so Balma, sodd off for a while.

    as for party planning, it is a huge issue. another issue ive seen is lack of punctuality. great idea uve got here.

  8. M SaeedUr Rahman (unregistered) on July 19th, 2007 @ 7:21 am

    This is an excellent idea to bring pencuality in our culture.Someone need to be The Trail Blazer and get started and there will be those that will follow this trail.
    For the sake of sanity I pray people can atleast solve this crazy social problem.

  9. zee (unregistered) on July 19th, 2007 @ 8:24 am

    BALMA: Yeah, you should die a virgin and alone :)

  10. SHAH (unregistered) on July 19th, 2007 @ 11:00 am

    I’ve done it and IT WORKS!

  11. mia (unregistered) on July 19th, 2007 @ 1:56 pm

    We actually did that at my bro’s wedding. My dad wrote 8:30 followed by “sharp” in italics and bold.

    People came on time

    Food was served on time

    Everyone went home by 11pm :)

  12. Mansoor (unregistered) on July 19th, 2007 @ 5:48 pm

    We do not need extravagant dinners for weddings etc, specially when our people are starved to death due to economic or weather conditions.

    Shame on us we spend huge amounts on un-necessary expenditures to compete with others.

    Marriages should be done in strictly a simpler manner, and dowry shouldnt be allowed. Sad tradition to sell-off boys to girls family should be stopped.

    Wake up muslims and help others, this will believe me make you more happy in this world and the world after.

  13. Syed Johny (unregistered) on July 19th, 2007 @ 6:35 pm

    Wow !! great MIA!! :D
    this should happen in our country !! we are used to the fact that its a marriage ceremony who is gonna come at time! even if we(all) are ready ! we wait till its atleast 10:30 to leave the house !

    Bad practice !!

    the problem is that the host themselves are not on time! the host should atleast come on time ! only and only then will people be forced to follow the time!

    A major hinderence here that there is a custom that close relaties come to the house of the host and then go together from there by buss! This cause the delay to the hosts!!!

    In conclusion we all are responsible for this phenomena !

  14. Balma (unregistered) on July 19th, 2007 @ 7:40 pm

    @Balma, do you work with an NGO for population control in Pak. ???

    ***** No. I just think it is impossible to walk or drive in Karachi due to overcrowding and Pakistan has too many people. It is a need of time to have something like China or what Sanjay Gandhi tried to do in late 70’s in India.

    Even though my folks crossed borders to get married, I am engaged to my cousin by mutual choice.
    so Balma, sodd off for a while.

    ****** I will suggest you visit a doctor before you and your cousin start multiplication. My advice will be to spare us from dumb and dumber Pakistanis.

    And what is ‘sodd off’? New phrase you learned at Jamia Greenwich, that bastion of burger education?

  15. Balma (unregistered) on July 19th, 2007 @ 7:51 pm

    * Zee wrote
    BALMA: Yeah, you should die a virgin and alone :)

    ***** should I put you in touch with some media folks? Perhaps they will invite you to start a comedy talk show on TV!?!?!

  16. Abdul Sami (unregistered) on July 23rd, 2007 @ 1:52 am

    Get some lessons from Bohra Community. There is a reason behind waiting for guests before opening dinner. If you open the dinner very early before the arrival of guests, food will not look fresh to late comers.

    Balma if u are a muslim u should know that Rizq dena ALLAH k haath mai hai and he gives enough resources according to the population to a particular land. So if your govt is corrupt its because of you, because your leaders are from yourself.

  17. Balma (unregistered) on July 23rd, 2007 @ 9:02 am


    Are your parents cousins?

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